My oldest daugther is nearing the age of 12. It is a very difficult time for me. She entered middle school this year, and over the course of the year has changed a lot. New friends, and more opportunities to be out and about. All the kids her age seem to have cell phones, and it doesn't seem to me that a lot of them are monitored over who they talk to, or when they talk. I refuse to give in to this. I have had this discussion with my dtr many times, she has no need for a cell phone. I will not get one for her. And, another big thing is MYSPACE. Been there with my stepdaughter, not going there with my daughter. However, many parents allow thier 10 11 12 year old children to start an account and post indecent photos of themselves online. It is simply insane! Recently my daughter had a day out of school that the elementary kids didn't. She wanted to go 'hang out' with a friend, whose mom is a bus driver, which meant that she would not be home most of the day. Now, I have 4 kids, which makes me mostly a SAHM, so I rarely ever have Grace at home alone, and if I do, no friends, no phone unless emergency. Well, I did emphasize to Grace she could not go 'hang out' unless a parent was going to be home. Then, I spoke to the Mom, she said, and I quote " Well, I could have them go on the bus route with me when I leave, but it's really up to them" I paused...up to them???? NO IT'S NOT UP TO AN 11 YEAR OLD WHAT THEY WANT TO DO. I may be on the stricter side of todays parents, but today parent's are so non-chalant, so ignorant and blind. I just don't understand it. So, everyday I wonder what she may be learning from these other girls/boys she goes to school with. It is a very stressfull time of parenthood. I am a wreck most of the time. I try to keep it under control, but you are the black sheep when you are the one monitoring your childs phone calls, internet use, etc. in todays world. I have to make a comment on Drea's blog of recent, the clothing they create for children these days is so over the top, I agree! I took Grace to get some shorts and a few tops, and she wears juniors sizes now. It was a nightmare, a simple shopping trip turns into a battle over what she wants vs. what I will let her choose. But, WE HAVE TO KEEP SOME CONTROL. I sure hope I can get through this!
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