Well, the day started out with me, and the babies, Heather sleeping, Darrin sleeping since he got off from his 2nd graveyard shift sunday morning. I got around, got the babies ready, and went to pick up the girls from my MIL (mother in law), and then we stopped at fred meyer so that I could pick up some annuals for my whiskey barrel, which I got for last mothers day. While browsing at flowers, my 9 year old ran inside to get something for
Grandma for mothers day, and by this time
I had not yet heard
"HAPPY MOTHERS DAY", no card, nothing! So, I pick out some flowers, go inside to find Grace, Drew is pushing Beau in the stroller, Leah is in the cart with the flowers, and we go past the toy isle. Big Mistake! Drew see's a fairytopia barbie playset,
she has to have, and starts begging and throwing a fit right in front of another family. It's mothers day you know, how could I handle this with the least bit of criticism in front of these people? I just tell her "NO, you are gonna have a birthday, you need to wait", oh lord, you'd have thought the end of the world was right around the corner, she became hysterical, I just told her "NO, stop, I'm not buying any toys." She kept on, with major attitude all the way out of the store.
We took a gift to my mom, and ofcourse she reports to Grandma how mean mommy is. Grace gave my mom a candle she had bought for her, and me some really pretty tealight candles, and the proceeds to say, "It was so cheap, I only spent 4.99, those were buy one get one free so I got a real good deal!" I said to her, "You don't tell people that!" We visited with my mom for awhile, the boy spent the time watching "PA" mow the lawn, he was so intrigued.
When we got home my husband had beed up for a few hours, he slept from 8am -noon, as he does after each of his last graveyards. The kitchen was a mess of dishes, Heather was just in her room as always. The boy started screaming, throwing a fit, the baby was screaming to eat. I know Darrin could hear all this going on, but he was glued to the couch, had to be, cause he did not get up. I laid the boy down, fed Leah, STILL, no "HAPPY MOTHERS DAY", no card, no nothing. The boy never went to sleep, just kept screaming down the hall, then laughing when you went to tell him to hush and lay down. So, he got up.
Darrin made some comment, I honestly don't remember what it was, but it tipped me over the edge, and I just finally said, "FINE, when fathers day rolls around, I'm gonna remember this, no big breakfast, no acknowledgement whatsoever, just like you are doing to me today!" He asked the girls if they told me 'happy mothers day', Grace says yes and that she got me candles, Drew says, "I can't get her anything." My husband asks her why. She says, "'Cause she's mean." Within 1/2 and hour, he is showered, and says, "I'm gonna go get some beer." Whatever.
He returns home in over an hour, it does not take that long to get beer. And, while he was gone, Leah screamed, Beau screamed, Grace argued, and Drew fought. What did I do to deserve this?
When he returns, he then has a gift for me. I ignore it for awhile, what is this anyway? An after thought? Do I really have to say something to get acknowledged? He finally asks if I'm going to open it. I said "I didn't need for you to go buy something. That's not it. It's that nobody said anything." He then apologized, he's tired, "when have I had time to think about it, or go shopping?" Granted, however, is what I do so insignificant, that it deserves NO mention? I spend most of the average day with the boy in and out of the highchair, Drew demanding books, games, crafts, and the baby on my boob nonstop. Truly not a single moment is mine and mine alone. How about, 'Honey, it's mothers day, I'll keep the kids so you can go to lunch with your mom', or just do anything
without the kids. Anyhoo...that was my mothers day.